People fall in love when they think alike and understand each other.
However, overtime , their responsibilities in life start diversifying. Each takes a different route to achieve his or her life purpose. Even if a couple get married, the wife has different responsibilities than the man.
Then each partner looks from support in thinking from his or her lover. The man expects sympathy from his wife regarding his work issues, competitive atmosphere , health problems etc. The wife expects love from her husband while dealing with his parents , living in his house, sending children to school etc.
There are several ideological issues which arise which cause conflicts . If the lovers can understand each other, the relationship continues with its liveliness but if the lovers have very different approaches , then the spark dies out.
Disagreements in thinking lead to each partner finding faults with the other which they used to ignore earlier. Like , the husband may start finding the wife fat while the wife may start finding the husband lazy or abusive. When thinking does not match, the body starts repelling.
The person who seems to be as understanding as God before now starts appearing as non understanding as a boss or as parents. Couples start hiding secrets from each other and get into extra marital affairs, duality and cheating just to get the spark back in their lives.
But, the new relationships do not help as positive energy has to be brighter than the negative for it to heal. If the couple cheat on the spouse and have an affair, they still continue living with a non understanding spouse in a routine and the negativity continues.
Bunking class in school appears thrilling but bunking responsibility as adults leads to more problems than before .
When sexual attraction no longer can sustain a relationship, the marriage starts being suffocating. There is loneliness in being married more than in being single as being married without sex is like going to a restaurant and not eating.
Children are individual beings on their own and need a peaceful atmosphere to be happy. When the partners are tense with each other, children start becoming rebellious , drug addicts and general misfits as they also seek escape from tension in the house.
Continuing a relationship simply because you once made promises is meaningless from the aim of soul evolution. If the partners are sensible and truly in love, their thinking matches by a choice to understand and not find faults. Understanding and sexual life continues to have passion as the souls are advanced, flexible, light and can evolve with each other’s energies.