Depression is the opposite of optimism just as feeling dead is
the opposite of feeling alive.
Death happens when the body no longer remains functional and
the soul leaves the body as it has no more use of the body as a channel of its
life force energy. When the soul can no longer radiate its light through the
body, it goes on a dormant state just as a computer is kept in a dormant state
when it is not being actively used. If the functions of the soul cannot be made
alive the soul chooses death of the body.
A depressed soul dies as it feels it cannot come alive with happiness
when it finds all doors are closed and it cannot achieve its way out come what
may. The depressed soul feels caught in a tunnel. Everything in its life
appears to go wrong and it feels that it is lifeless.
This scenario happens
only when the soul’s survival needs are being met and it does not have to
struggle for basic food clothing or shelter. Depression is largely a disease of
the rich which means that it depends more on a mental attitude than a physical
disorder. A rickshaw wala won’t feel depressed while taking customers around in
the sun or an office employee won’t feel depressed when he has deadlines.
Depression would be diagnosed only when a person has the
time and money to visit a psychiatrist, a feeling of disillusionment in life
and a hope inside that maybe medicines can cure what is not really a medical
problem.
Though depression is created by negative hormones in the bloodstream,
medicines cannot stop the release of hormones unless the person chooses to feel
positive.
Hormones are released by electric impulses being produced in
the body when a person feels an emotional discharge. Emotions are energies in
motion. Feelings create electric impulses in the body. We feel negative or
positive on a constant basis. Feeling is as constant as breathing. Electric
impulses are released constantly in response to the person’s emotional state.
When negative feelings are predominant negative hormones re released. Negative
hormones lower the positive functioning of the body and the more you choose to
feel helpless, the more your depression would rise.
Circumstances make us depressed but circumstances are
partially chosen by us. For example, we feel happy when we are working with
passion when there is love in our life and everything appears to be improving.
On the other hand we feel depressed when work no longer
makes us feel passionate when we feel we can contribute a lot more than we are
contributing, when we have a lot of monotony time, when there is nobody who
loves or understands us or makes us feel alive.
The circumstances by which we feel bound by are our own
choice and we choose them because of security reasons for fear of change, because
of society’s expectations. Our own beliefs about how good life is defined, a
sense of responsibility which is misguided etc.
For example, we feel depressed when we are doing a job which creates boredom and monotony when there is nothing new to learn from it ;
we feel depressed in a marriage where
there is no sex and financial problems
because the husband and wife don’t think alike; we feel depressed when the
husband or wife have affairs outside and we feel neglected because there is no
understanding, no freshness, no love which thrills the soul anymore; we feel
depressed when out child is diagnosed with a
disease and the doctors say there is no cure; we feel depressed when a
deep, passionate love affair breaks down and we feel betrayed etc.
Each time depression happens, hope for newness dies; when we
feel there is nothing new in life to look forward to – it indicates death to
the soul. The parasympathetic nervous system collapses as in a fatal accident
and the body goes into a recession mode as it does when a person is recouping
from an accident.
Doctors prescribe pills for depression which generate a few
positive hormones in the body just to help the body not lose complete hope from
life.
However depression cannot be cured unless the psychological
issues underlying depression are addressed, when we find ways to let go of a marriage or work which no longer satisfies our
creative zeal or we find ways to satisfy our creative needs elsewhere through meditation,
painting, dancing, writing, designing etc.
If the boss or the spouse is extremely critical it means that
the person is depressed himself and he would pass on his depressed energies to
those working underneath. It is difficult to be optimistic under extreme negativity
and it is easier to detach completely than follow orders.
There is no need to be depressed because another negative
person scolds you all the time because that negative person would remain the
same irrespective of whether you obey orders or not. Being negative is an
addiction like smoking or drinking and negative people likes to make other
people negative so that they can share their sorrows like alcoholics make other
people alcoholic. The virus of negativity spreads like the virus of chicken pox
and it has to be prevented by installing shields on self.
Some method to overcome depression is to do all that which
we would to recover from physical illness.
1.
We need to do mild breathing and walking
exercises to make the body feel alive , laugh as an exercise smile over a
minute or dance mentally or physically ,
to make the mind feel alive - anything which raises heartbeat mildly works.
2.
We need to smile each time a negative thought
pulls us into darkness so that positive hormones release.
3.
We need to keep thinking of bright lights flowers,
or make mental films where we feel loved and desired with feeling more than
about feeling unloved even if ot means denying an existing reality. What has been
created is that feeling which we focused on before. When we change our inner
focus our outside reality becomes neutral. We move to detachment from being negative.
Overtime it becomes positive as we keep focusing on creation of positive
hormones by deliberately smiling laughing, imagining etc.
4.
Holidays need to be taken mentally than
physically- means we take time off to stay thoughtless where we are not smoking
or drinking as these have side effects which create negative hormones later after
the euphoria is over. Making love with feeling trusted,secure helps even if its imaginative. Prostitution is again like smoking or drinking. It leaves negativitity in mind and releases negative hormones later.
5.
We can close our eyes every hour and exhale
breath to five counts with a forced smile.. Imagination is as good as real life scenariors for creating positive hormones in the body.
6.
Smiling is the best cure for depression as it
literally release positive hormones which replace negative hormones in the
body. We need to smile for ourselves in private not only a pretence to the
world.
7.
It helps if we spend time on Smiling for ten minutes
as soon as we get up with staying thoughtless in imagined brightness and
smiling for ten minutes before going to sleep by releasing all stress from mind
like bursting a balloon.
These techniques appear simple but are not. If you can try
them literally, they will work if you cannot, please read my books available on
Amazon or online.
My book REDEFINING HAPPINESS covers concepts, self healing
tips and thinking needed to overcome depression. All books are available online
or can be ordered through me at rswaati@yahoo.com
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